by masima07
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/1uuojb6/aita_am_i_in_the_wrong_over_a_bassinet/
I (51m) let my daughter borrow the bassinet I bought so she could stay at her moms a few days and my wife (38f) was mad enough it ended up in a massive blow up.
Backstory, my wife found out about 8 months ago she’s autistic and was and had been in autistic burnout for a while. So she is in a semi permanent state of depression and is essentially at this point a roommate, as far as her involvement in the marriage, as she deals with her stuff.
So the actual story… my daughter had my first grandbaby 2 months ago, she lives 1.5 hours away so we don’t get to see the grandbaby as much as we’d like. She asked to stay with us for a week since her AC went out and we were excited. My wife wanted to buy a $500 bassinet for here whenever she wanted to stay and she never did. So I went on FB marketplace and found one for $140 and I bought it. My daughter was going to stay a couple days at my moms before coming here and asked if she could borrow the bassinet, my wife was adamant she could not take it over there because my mom has dogs that she’d really bad and her house can be a bit dirty from that so she didn’t want the bassinet getting dog hair all over it (she’s allergic to dogs) so I said ok I understand.
So she said she’s setting a hard boundary that the bassinet wt must stay at our house which I don’t understand. She says my daughter is an adult and should buy everything she needs such as a travel bassinet and that we shouldn’t be supplying this stuff. So after she stays here for a few days she asks if she can take it to her moms so she can stay and let her mom spend a few days with the baby before coming back here. I tell her no because of what my wife said, she starts bawling so I go ask my wife again. She was mad but said ok.
After my daughter leaves my wife is pissed, saying I disrespected her by asking after she set a hard boundary and that I’m basically an asshole and have no respect for her and her wishes. It led to a HUGE blow up where we both mentioned divorce (again marriage not in a good place due to autistic burnout).
Am I wrong for letting my daughter use the bassinet against my wife’s wishes? Any therapist out there?
by Powerful_Virgo
https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/comments/1utxfnl/aita_for_not_switching_rooms/
I booked a single room at a resort where a family event is happening, as I am single without a traveling companion. This resort is all-inclusive, and it doesn't matter what kind of room you book. It is the same price across the board. They charge by the person not by the room. My cousin, who I am close with, called to book a room and apparently there was only a room that sleeps 6 people left so she booked thay room. She is bringing her boyfriend on the trip. She invited her brother (also my cousin), and he has decided to come on the trip. We are not sure if there are enough rooms to accommodate him getting his own room. She asked me if I would be willing to switch her rooms and share a room with her brother so that her and her boyfriend could have my single room. I told her that I was sure the resort could accommodate her brother having his own room and that I think it would be nice if we could all have our own space, instead of having to share rooms. She acted upset that I wouldn't switch rooms, as if I was being selfish. AITA?
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