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I 30 (M) moved abroad from the US to Slovakia 5 years ago. Recently, my close friend from college got engaged and invited me to be a groomsmen in his wedding and I said yes. As the wedding has gotten closer, more and more things have started to add up cost wise for it. For example, instead of renting suits he wants us all to buy them ($500+), The wedding is not in our hometown, it's at a large venue in a big city that neither the bride or groom live in so we are expected to get a hotel (cheapest for 2 nights is about $350 a night), the venue they decided on is very fancy so the minimum for the cost of a plate is high because they're having a smaller wedding. I also have to pay for the flights, which I already anticipated when I said yes to being a groomsmen, but that's still over $1200.

When the idea of their wedding was told to me, it was going to be a small, close to home, nothing fancy thing, bit it's kind of turned into a bit of an investment. I solid money for Slovakia, but compared to the USD, I would make comparatively little. I feel like since all the plans were texted slowly as each step was completed to us I already invested and would be an a hole and out of money if I backed out. (I.E - was told to buy a suit, then told what and where the venue was a few weeks later). I plan on buying them drinks and such at the rehearsal dinner and when we meet up, but WIBTA if I don't get them a wedding gift?