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I (26F) was friends with another girl (27F); let’s call her Q. We had been friends for 8 years, and we were actually part of the same friend group. I have always felt like she didn’t really consider me a friend, but was okay with me because we were in the same circle.

In March 2025, her 17-year-old sister unexpectedly passed away. It was extremely sad. I reached out to her three days later because I didn’t want to contact her too soon. She didn’t answer my call, and I was okay with that. However, I later found out that she answered everyone else’s calls in the group except mine and another girl’s, who had only recently joined the group. She also organized a memorial for her sister and invited everybody except that girl and me. So I assumed she didn’t want my condolences, and I moved on with my life.
In July 2025, I went on a trip with another friend who isn’t in the group, and I noticed that no one in my friend group liked my Instagram photos anymore. We had always had a tradition of liking each other’s posts.

Then, in June 2026, I went on another trip with my sisters. After I posted on my story, 6 out of the 9 people in the group unfollowed me, and I was kicked out of the group chat. When I was kicked out, another girl who didn’t agree with it also left.
Apparently, Q told everyone that I didn’t acknowledge her loss and just moved on with my life as if nothing had happened. She said she didn’t want to be connected to me in any way and told the group they had to choose between her and me, and to choose her because of what happened with her sister.

Another ex-friend from the group contacted me, and we ended up talking for over three hours. After that call, I felt extremely guilty. I started thinking that maybe I should have kept reaching out instead of assuming she wanted space. I also posted on Instagram after her sister passed away, while no one else in the group did. Apparently, she had asked everyone not to post for a year, but I didn’t know that because I wasn’t at the memorial when she said it.

EDIT: After her sister passed, it affected her deeply in a lot of ways, and it still does till today. Her mom passed around a year after her sister was born, and although she was around 10 yrs then, she became a mother to her sister. The nickname she gave her sister was “My Oxygen”. I am threading with extreme caution. That is why I have not contacted the rest of the group, I don’t want to escalate it